@kamla: my answer has nothing to do with anyone posting here but it is based on my 5 years playing this game. Over that time, I taught myself, with the help of others, to tolerate and accept. I am still learning that lesson, to be honest, but progress is being made. My biggest lesson was, "letting it go" and not becoming obsessed. Someone with a lot more experience said to me, "focus on what makes you happy about the game and ignore the rest." These were very helpful words of advice that actually helped me to stay in the game not once but twice after considering leaving permanently.
When I go after an FTF, I already expect it to be claimed. Always! When I show up and, it has not been claimed, the thrill is that much better. But, by gearing myself up to expect it to be claimed, there is no disappointment. Do not get me wrong, it took me over 4 years to learn that lesson. So, now I can actually laugh about it and post a quirky remark to whoever claimed it. I will not say, "that is how the game should be played" because I know that not everyone understands or follows my opinion. It is presumptuous in the extreme to tell someone what they should or should not do. Lately, I am following the approach, "so what" and I just move on and focus on what makes me happy letting go of all the frustration.